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Millions of people are looking for a magic supplement and herb
combination that will increase their health and vitality. People
are ingesting Coenzyme Q, pycnogenol, magnesium, Vitamin C,
Gingko, Echinacea and thousands of other products and combinations.
In many cases, these supplements give a slight energy and health
boost. In some cases, the body needs both healthy foods and
supplements to help recover from an illness. However, for most
people, much of the increased need for nutrients is due in a
significant part to a high level of daily physical and/or
psychological stress.
Taking steps to relax and body and mind (in addition to getting
adequate sleep) can be enormously healing and is highly recommended
for those interested in healing acute or serious chronic illnesses or
preventing future illnesses. Relaxation techniques can add enormous
power to other holistic healing techniques. I hope that you take the
time to make gradual changes which will allow deep relaxation and
the healing and vitality that comes with it to become an increasing
part of your life.
Some Common Signs and Symptoms of Excess Stress
- Regularly walking, eating or working in a rushed way.
- Regularly thinking and worrying about the past or future.
- Frequent tension in the body (esp. neck, face, shoulders, back and
chest, and stomach) which often goes unnoticed until one slows
down, breaths deep and carefully surveys the body.
- Feeling of the "weight of the world" on your shoulders.
- Emotionally "on edge."
- Regular tiredness during the day.
- Significant need for outside stimulation to feel good (coffee,
sweeteners, food, sex, TV, alcohol, money, accomplishments, etc.)
The Goal
Occasional challenges, both physical and psychological, are
not unhealthy for most people. Occasional challenging projects,
arguments, difficulties with children, difficulties at work/school,
etc. are a normal part of life. These types of stresses are normal
and can actually be strengthening. The goal is not necessarily to
avoid all stressful events, but to develop the ability to relax
during day-to-day activities and during challenging occurences
(such as those mentioned above). Persons who are recovering from
an illness should attempt to keep challenging situations to a
minimum but not necessarily avoid them totally unless they are
extremely weak.
Strategies For Stress Relief
As part of the process of curing an illness, promoting
health & vitality and preventing illness and premature aging,
it is important to gradually move towards a daily life that
less stressful.
Some Strategies to Avoid
- Attempting to make everything in life stress-free.
- Focusing on every event and constantly reminding yourself to relax.
- Regularly avoiding the feeling of emotions (e.g., sadness, anger,
joy, fear, etc.).
- There are a number of other things which will not work in the
long run when used by themselves only -- long vacations,
execise, etc.
The type of strategy which tends to work is the combination of
gradually and gently trying to change one's habits plus regular
practices or situations which help put the body in a relaxed state.
Both types of strategies are important in promoting stress reduction.
Regular Practices and Situations to Promote Stress
Relief
Note: The positive effects of these techniques vary from person to
person.
Examples of Powerful and Healing Regular Practices
Taking a class and going to regular group practices can be crucial
in promoting a regular practice. Some people have moved
into teaching centers in order to be certain they will have a regular
practice and promote healing and transformation.
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Yoga -- This is a wonderful practice for
stress reduction and profound healing. I highly recommend
printing out the
Yoga Chapter, reading it and then taking regular classes.
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Meditation
-
Tai Chi
- Conscious Breathing Routine (Conscious Breathing,
by Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., (Please see the
Stress Reduction page of the Holistic Healing Web Page / Amazon.Com
Bookstore for a listing).
- Dancing
-
Bioenergetics Classes
Examples of Powerful and Healing Occasional
Practices
- Holistic Healing Retreat
- Vacation
- Massage (Some people practice regularly by exchanging
with a partner.)
Daily Stress Reduction Tips
Note: As mentioned earlier, there will naturally be times when
these tips are not used, but try to gradually incorporate
them into your life where possible.
- Add something beautiful to your life on a daily basis (e.g.,
flowers).
- Do some enjoyable activities whenever possible.
- Walk, work, and eat at a relaxed pace.
- Take a short break after meals to relax.
- If possible, go outside at least once per day and notice the
simple things such as the weather, scenery, etc.
- During the day, whenever you remember, notice and tension in
your body (jaw, neck, diaphram, shoulders, etc.). Breath
deeply and gently stretch and relax any tense areas.
- If you notice your mind racing or worrying about the past or
future, take a minute to breath deeply and gently focus on
something in the moment such as your breath, scenery, birds.
- Take breaks during the workday to relax.
- Wear comfortable and loose clothing when possible. Take off
your shoes when you can.
- Avoid holding in feelings day after day, but instead, find a
safe place to feel, express and embrace them.
Please be gentle with yourself. Some people find themselves
falling back into excessively stressful habits from time to time.
That is perfectly normal. Simply notice that change in a
non-judgemental way and move back to the stress reduction
practices and tips that promote a healthy way of life.
Stress Relief Ideas in Specific Situations
On many ocassions there are situations that come up which can cause
significant amounts of stress. Listed below are a few such situations
along with some ideas that I have found useful in addressing the
situation. As in all of the idea listings on the Holistic Healing Web
Page, please do not try to do everything at once.
- Financial Difficulties
Financial difficulties can be enormously stressful for some people because
our goals and our security is wrapped up in the need to have sufficient
finances. Such difficulties often don't magically disappear, but there are
some steps that can be taken to reduce or eliminate the stress and worry while
working one's way through these difficulties. A few suggestions include:
- Steps -- Carefully follow the plan outlined in the book,
"Your Money or Your Life." (Please see the
Stress Reduction page of the Holistic Healing Web Page / Amazon.Com
Bookstore for a listing) This book will take you step by step towards financial
independence. Following the program in the book can also be useful in
helping to find your goals and make career decisions.
- Share -- Tell at least one close friend, family member
or religious leader (e.g., minister, rabbi) about your difficulties.
Keeping the difficulties secret will often add stress and eventually
cause inner turmoil. Some people find support groups such as those formed
to work with the above-mentioned book or those seen with Debtors
Anonymous (see below) to be very helpful.
- Faith -- Persons who have a regular
Meditation Practice or
Spiritual Practice often develop enormous faith that difficulties
can be worked through successfully. The potential stress can be
reduced many-fold through these types of practices. While it
doesn't directly effect the financial situation, these practices
can improve health, reduce stress, make it easier to see worthwhile
opportunities and make it easier to change habits that may, in some
cases, contribute to financial difficulties.
- Acceptance -- While it may seem strange, having
a loving acceptance of oneself in the current situation is often an important
key to making a permanent change in the situation. This goes hand-in-hand
with having a strong faith. If you look at people who successfully
turn their lives around, you will usually notice both a loving
acceptance of who they are as well as a strong faith. The opposite end
of the sprectrum are the unfortunate souls who have lost their faith
and their self-esteem (or never had it).
Persons who have low self-esteem, having difficulty making simple
changes or who have lost their faith may want to temporarily set
aside working the steps in "Your Money or Your Life" and focus
on choosing one inner transformational tool that addresses the situation.
Some such tools are:
-
Meditation Practice
-
Spiritual Practice or Practical Spiritual Program such as
Debtors Anonymous discussed below.
- Affirmation Program such as found in the excellent book,
"I Deserve Love." (Please see the
Stress Reduction page of the Holistic Healing Web Page / Amazon.Com
Bookstore for a listing)
- Special -- Persons who have significant debt and/or
habits of overspending may want to consider working the program
detailed by Debtors Anonymous. Internet resources for the excellent
program can be found on the
Debtors Anonymous
Information page.
Persons suffering from psychological illnesses which are contributing
in some way to the financial difficulties can, if possible, have these
health problems treated by a Holistic Healthcare Professional
such as an Oriental Medical Doctor, Naturopath, Homeopath,
Holistic MD or an experienced Medical Herbalist. Psychological
therapy may be warrented as well. See the
Directory of Practitioners Web Page to find a practitioner
in your area.
- Tasks and Time Constraints
There are situations where there is constant time and work pressure and which
adds significant stress to one's life. Sometimes these situations are not
easily avoidable. In order to start a medical training program with friends
(who had planned to start at a specific date), I chose
to continue to work full-time, take prerequisite classes nearly full-time
and to continue to serve as the webmaster for the Holistic Healing Web Page.
In order to come out of situations like these with one's health, it
is helpful to consider a few ideas which I have related below.
- Small Tasks -- Spliting projects and assignments into
small pieces and doing a small amount of work on a regular basis on these
projects is perhaps one of the very best ways to prevent becoming
overwhelmed with work.
- Priorities -- Choosing appropriate priorities for tasks
is an important way to avoid stress. Is it better to performs A+ (4.0 grade)
in school and study all of the time or to get a B average and spend the
extra time having fun, exercising, etc.? Is it better to work overtime
completing projects to earn extra money or job prestige and not see your
family much or to somehow avoid overtime work and spend alot of time with
your family? These are the types of decisions which are important and can
have a significant effect on stress levels. The decisions should be made
while keeping in mind what it important in life. In my case mentioned above,
I chose to work extra hard for a year in order to start a medical program
with my friends. But if such a decision would cause extreme stress that would
lead to health problems, I would not have decided to work so hard.
- Stress Reduction Practices -- Continuing a regular
practice of stress reduction techniques such as
yoga,
bioenergetics or
meditation
can help one get through busy times with one's sanity. It can
be many times easier to develop a regular practice by going to a class.
Most people can spare at least 15-30 minutes per day to perform a short
routine.
- "I Hate My Job" Syndrome
Job stress can be one of the biggest sources of stress for many people.
In many cases, people feel hopeless when thinking about solving serious
problems on the job, dissatisfaction with the job, or making career choices. In
fact, a large percentage of the people I have met have had this situation
at one time in their life. It can be difficult to heal a chronic illness
if you are experiencing a large amount of stress on the job. In addition,
chronic illnesses may become more likely if the excessive on-the-job stress
is not addressed. Below are a few ideas which may prove helpful.
- Program -- The first four ideas suggested for Financial
Difficulties above are highly recommended in this situation.
- Improving the Job -- A couple of excellent resources for making
the very best of a difficult situation are 1) the book, "The Corporate Mystic: A
Guidebook for Visionaries With Their Feet on the Ground" by Gay Hendricks & Kate
Ludeman (Please see the
Stress Reduction page of the Holistic Healing Web Page / Amazon.Com
Bookstore for ordering information),
and 2) the article entitled, "The Spirit of 9 to 5" in the December 1997
issue (#137) of Yoga Journal. It only
takes a minor effort to obtain these excellent resources and I highly recommend
them.
- Personnel Office -- The Personnel Office in most companies
is responsible for helping resolve conflicts with other employees and for
resolving and problems you are having with job responsibilities. If
discussing the situation with your boss does not resolve the situation or
if you do not feel comfortable discussing the situation with your boss, please
consider whether the Personnel Office in your company can help find solutions
for the problem.
- Exploration -- Pursuing creative expression
in various ways can be helpful in finding goals that may one day
become a career. While it may not seem possible upon
initial evaluation, many exciting hobbies can eventually become careers.
Therefore, it can be helpful to take classes and explore various endeavors
while paying attention to what excites you as a possible hobby or career.
- Bioenergetics -- One of the goals with
Bioenergetic
Analysis is to help the student "find their own movement."
By learning to find my own movement physically and expressing myself
vocally using Bioenergetic techniques, I gained confidence and skills
in both identifying and pursuing my own career goals. Others have
seen similar effects. The classes can be helpful in this regard, but
one-on-one work can be even more effective.
Questions & Answers
I am having difficulty keeping a regular practice of yoga/meditation
as well as eliminating habits that cause stress. I keep falling back
into the same old patterns of stressful living and not taking care
of myself. Do you have any ideas?
Having difficulty making changes can have a number of possible causes.
Below are a few suggestions to consider:
- Class -- Taking a class can make an enormous difference
in one's ability to keep a yoga or meditation practice going. I know some
practitioners who give classes because it is easier for them to keep up a
practice by doing so. Try to find a class near your home if possible.
- Friends & Family -- It can be much easier to make
changes and sustain those changes you get regular support and love from
close friends and family.
- Positive Influences -- Spend time around positive, cheerful
people whenever possible. There's little that can drag a person down more
easily than a lack of positive attitudes in one's life or excessive exposure
to negative attitudes. Some people move to yoga or meditation centers or take
retreats regularly at such centers in order to learn and
to be around people who are positive and taking care of themselves.
- Programs -- Two different and very simple programs
that people have found helpful are described in the following books.
I would suggest only doing one program at a time.
- I Deserve Love" by Sondra Ray
- Primary Domino Thinking: Creating the Life You Want by Anthony S. Dallmann-Jones
Please see the Transformation Books section in the
Stress Reduction page of the Holistic Healing Web Page / Amazon.Com
Bookstore.
- Meditation -- Inner Transformation techniques such
as
meditation has proven extremely helpful for many people in making changes.
Resources
- Books
- Organizations
- Miscellaneous Organizations